Having lived here, there and everywhere, I’ve met a wide range of people from every ethnic and financial background you can imagine. I’m a people lover. A culture fiend. I love to know what makes you, you.
I often look back at my travels and laugh about how interesting people are. Not in a way that we’re all so markedly different from one another.
Though borders and plane rides and passports may separate some of us, attitudes about life situations rarely differ from one land to the next. There’s always the A Audience and the B Audience.
For example, no matter where I go in the world, my girlfriends who have married and divorced always have an easier time finding another husband.
The girlfriends who have never been married are always thinking they’ll never find “The One,” despite the fact that their divorced counterparts rarely have a shortage of dates.
But it’s not just a woman thing.
Internet marketers are the EXACT same way
Bloggers and affiliate marketers and online entrepreneurs, in general, who have had some success can always seem to find more success.
And what about failure?
Failure is just a part of the landscape. It’s not an end destination where they get off the train. Big time Internet marketers who have lost everything (and it happens way more often than you probably think) don’t wallow in a barrel of sour grapes.
They lick their wounds, reset their mindset and they move on… vowing to regain everything that they’ve lost. It doesn’t matter that they only have $10 left, they find a way to make a comeback.
Those who haven’t made it act just like my never-been-married girlfriends
My never-been-married friends say: “These guys just can’t handle a strong, secure woman like me.” Or “These guys just don’t know what they want.” Or my favorite, “There are just too many single women and not enough single men.”
It’s the same shit I hear in the forums, just from a different audience.
Struggling Internet marketers will say: “These guru’s are all trying to shovel scammy crap down our throats!” Or, “I’ve tried everything and nothing seems to be working.” Or my favorite, “It’s virtually IMPOSSIBLE to make money in the Internet marketing niche.”
To both of these parties, I say, “Sucks to be you.”
Mindset can be the noose around your neck or the ladder to climb the money tree
In either situation it’s not that one group has a better advantage over another.
My divorced girlfriends are no more super model-ish than my never-been-married girlfriends. Team Divorced isn’t any sweeter or richer than Team Never-Been-Married.
The difference between the two – I’m convinced – is mindset.
My divorced friends expect to be partnered up, so they never have problems finding a partner. My never-been-married friends expect problems and excuses, and that’s exactly what they get.
If you approach Internet marketing as this “impossible to conquer” niche where everybody is “scamming you” and there’s no room for the little guy to make money because all the guru’s are cozy with one another, then I feel sorry for you.
You’re destined to see all these things come to pass.
Despite the fact that a lot of people start off at the same point, the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. And it has nothing to do with money, it’s all about mindset and accepting responsibility for your own success.
The girl up on the stage
My daughter (God bless her two little left feet) has a minimal amount of rhythm when it comes to dancing. Despite two years of dance classes, she almost always has a difficult time catching the beat.
But that doesn’t stop her from spontaneous dancing in public. If we’re in a store and a good song comes on, she goes in to a full on dance routine.
Yeah, she’s frequently off beat. But people are always saying what an awesome dancer she is. And even though she knows she’s off beat, she still keeps on grooving. Her lack of great rhythm NEVER ever deters her.
A few months ago we were at a street fair where an elevated catwalk had been constructed for a fashion show. The fashion show was over, but the music was still playing and there were a couple of babies up on the catwalk dancing.
My daughter begged to go up there. I said no. My girlfriend took her up there anyway.
To my absolute amazement she danced perfectly on beat to a song that she’d never heard before! She was popping and locking and just working the catwalk with perfect rhythm.
The crowd roared. (Seriously!)
I watched in utter amazement, tears welling up in my eyes. I couldn’t believe that she had throngs of people stopping to watch her like she was one of the performers… the same girl who I swore couldn’t keep a beat to save her life.
I learned an extremely valuable lesson that day.
And I hope you take away a valuable lesson from this post.
Life is all about challenges. As soon as you jump over one hurdle, you can rest assured that there’s another one waiting to greet you.
The mindset you hold for yourself in this Internet marketing thing will either propel you forward or drown you.
You’ve been scammed? Good, so have I. You’ve lost money and sleep? Good, so have I. You have to work 18 hours a day? Good, I’ve been there too. Can’t hang out with your friends? Welcome to the club amigo.
You don’t have to have perfect rhythm. You don’t have to be the most beautiful, be the most conversational or have the fanciest laptop.
You just have to take responsibility for your own mindset.
Success is never assured, but the ability to succeed always is.